Relationships

Two Generation of Autism – Similarities and Differences

Someone once asked me to define the similarities and differences between the Hubs and our 7yo. On the surface, the differences are huge- due to the fact that one has 25+ years of trying to fit in socially and being (seriously. lack of better term) beaten into social submission. So I wrote a ginormous list, but only chose a few to share with you since [...]

The-More-Than-Valentine's-Day- Valentine

If you are like me, you woke up the day or two after Christmas deciding you needed to run to the store for something but when you enter the store, instead of being greeted by red and green and a major amount of glitter, you are greeted with RED, WHITE and PINK! Yes, in the mere 48 hours that it takes most of us to rejoin the [...]

An Interview with a Parent Navigating Two Generations of Autism

If you missed last month’s post in this series, you can click here, or join me for a short recap: • An Interview with a parent navigating Two Generations of Autism, Michelle Christiansen. So, what’s like living with two generations of Autism? Um… it’s not easy, that’s for sure. But it’s our life. Slowly, gradually, we’ve adjusted and it seems like we’re constantly adjusting, but [...]

Two Generations of Autism – The Beginning

The Beginning of a new Writing Series on Special Happens.... I am Michelle. I started blogging with Special Happens as a form of therapy for myself-discovering how to cope and raise a child on the autism spectrum.  I believe in sharing stories, circumstances and how we handled them with each other-because we all have something to learn from each other. I also believe that no [...]

Domestic Violence – October is the Awareness Month

Spouse abuse, dating abuse, relationship abuse, it can be physical or mental or both, it happens in teens dating; married couples, and yes same sex couples.  No one in a relationship should allow themselves to be abused nor should anyone abuse another person.  Sadly the reality is, abuse happens in America every nine seconds.  In the time it took me to write that first sentence, [...]

Perspective on When Special Needs Fathers Remain

“When Special Needs Dads Remain…” I chose to write about this because I thought it would easy. Simple. J’s dad has stayed in the picture, so I was going to write a few serious sentences about how not all SN dads stay, and how that can be hard, ect… but then I actually started to think about J’s dad staying, and how much better things [...]

Turning Off the Blue Light for Alex Spourdalakis

In recent years the diagnosis of autism has skyrocketed.  Children range from mildly effected with some stimming, sensory over load and issues in the area of speech and communication.  This level earned the name pervasive developmental disorder, kind of a mild touch of autism if you will. There is a middle ground, and then there is what the rest of us know as autism, a [...]

Where Have All The "Good" Dads Gone – Marriage and Special Needs

If you’ve ever read Laura Numeroff’s If You Give a Moose a Muffin, you probably immediately related to the boy in the story. The one who just wanted to be nice and share a muffin with a forest animal, and ends up spending his time, energy, and patience managing consecutive needs the moose brings as a result. Marriage and parenting are like that. You get [...]

Misunderstood – When Child Protective Services is Called

My phone rang late one afternoon, the voice on the other end breathless and worried, “Cheryl I need you to come talk to the police, they are calling CPS on Kate again, some neighbor saw Mark outside without any pants on. I just pulled up in my driveway and saw the cops in here, can you come quickly? Thanks.”  The phone went dead before I [...]

Special Mom's on Mother's Day

They love unconditionally, they encourage, support and guide us through life and are always there to pick us up when we fall, or to wipe away tears when that boy or girl breaks our hearts for the first time.  Mothers of children with special needs and all moms are inspirational; they are fighters, they are warriors, and sometimes they have to show just how warrior [...]

By | 2013-05-11T09:00:19+00:00 May 11th, 2013|Categories: Family, Holidays, Parenting, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , |0 Comments

Today I am a Special Needs Mother, and It's Hard

For the record, I consider myself just a Mom.  I don't look at my situation with John and say, "I am a special needs Mom."  Handicapped? no, my son is not handicapped, that title is reserved for individuals in much worse mental and physical shape than John.  Today, however reality slapped me in the face, yes I am a special needs Mother, like it or [...]

Autism – A Need-To-Know Basis?

I am surprised by the number of parents who ask me if it is wise to tell their children that they have autism or should they wait until the child is older, like in high school to tell them. I think one of the main reasons this question even comes up is because of a parent's concern that the child will feel more out-casted bearing [...]

By | 2013-05-09T09:00:18+00:00 May 9th, 2013|Categories: Autism / Asperger’s, Family, Medical / Therapies, Parenting, Relationships|2 Comments

I (Nearly) Missed The Most Normal Special Need Ever

When raising a child with multiple special needs, we'd all like to think we're observant parents. But I've found that while managing high-intensity conditions in my kids, it's easy to miss the most "normal" childhood issues. In the wake of bipolar meltdowns, panic attacks, sensory processing challenges and behaviors driven by Reactive Attachment Disorder, I've missed a few doosies over the years: Seasonal allergies. My [...]

A View in the Mirror : I Covet Your Child

It is so much easier for me to look back at where we have been in life, than to live it the first twenty years.  Back then there were minutes I did not think we would survive one more day.  I would worry about teen years and young adulthood, unsure of what lie ahead and what we would face.  I can smile now when I [...]

By | 2013-04-30T09:00:15+00:00 April 30th, 2013|Categories: A View in the Mirror, Family, Parenting, Relationships, Series|Tags: |0 Comments

Are Special Needs Parents Judgmental?

A few weeks ago I wrote a post about understanding Transgender children.  I had been talking to a Mother who has had to deal first hand with this issue and felt deeply for the hardships her child was facing.  My own son had remarked that no way would he let his son dress like a "freaking girl", "born a boy you are a boy end [...]

By | 2013-04-18T09:21:59+00:00 April 18th, 2013|Categories: Family, Relationships|Tags: , , , |4 Comments

Divorce in Special Needs Families Part 2

Read Part I of this series, where factors that may contribute to divorce in Special Needs Families is explored, here. • How can you safe guard your marriage from "splits-ville"?   First acknowledge that you have to shift your life plans.  Sit down and be realistic about money.  That boat you were saving for, the house down payment may never happen, but if you are [...]

Divorce in Special Needs Families Part I

It is probably the most touted statistic you will hear, the increase of divorce in special needs families. For some reason your child’s doctor, or a school teacher or your best friend will feel the need to inform you divorce rates are higher among parents with special need children. The question is why and is there anything we can do to keep a focus on [...]

Special Needs Parents Marriages – Why Some Succeed

Last summer we actually had a hot summer in Minnesota (at least by our state’s standards); some of our flowers died almost immediately, some fought a little longer before they succumb, and some thrived.  The ironic part though is that every pot contained the same soil, the same seeds, and received the same amount of sunlight and water. No plant faced any more challenges than [...]

A View in the Mirror: Posted Property and My Heart Too

For as long as I have lived in my current home, I have had the privilege to walk, roam, explore and enjoy acres of woods all around me.  I have fond memories of my boys and long winding walks along the ravine, near ponds and in the middle of newly cut roads, still little more than wide dirt paths. The woods was always a place [...]

By | 2013-02-28T07:00:39+00:00 February 28th, 2013|Categories: A View in the Mirror, Family, Parenting, Relationships, Series|Tags: , , |2 Comments

A Parent's Guilt Comes With Special Needs

For so long the guilt I felt was an enormous burden that no one could seem to understand. Sometimes I would give it voice, only to have it quickly silenced with words of encouragement and sayings that made sense in the reality of looking at things from a far away place. But always in my head, they lingered, my thought’s whispers that what happened to [...]

By | 2013-02-18T07:00:33+00:00 February 18th, 2013|Categories: Family, Parenting, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |18 Comments
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