"Stupid. Stupid. STUPID!"

"Stupid. Stupid. STUPID!"

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“Stupid. Stupid. STUPID!”


“You STUPID Mommy!”

Oh what, not a great post so far? Try having that be your conversation with your child. Yes, my son says stupid. A lot. Not only every day, but I’m fairly certain there’s not a waking hour when he hasn’t uttered it.


We’ve tried different ways of eradicating this word from his vocabulary. Items earned. Items not earned. Breaks. Ignoring…the last one being laughable. Ignore it, we thought and we won’t be giving him the immediate response / reinforcer that he might be looking for. The change of a face, the change of a tone, the change of a mood. In short, a reaction around something he controls…his words.


Where he would utter this once and take a correction, he now will say it loudly and proudly multiple times in a row. In fact, it’s morphed. Morphed in the exact order that you see above. How fun it is to have your son yelling “You stupid Mommy.” in a store, in front of teachers, in the neighborhood or in the home, all while running at you with a raspberry of spit showers coming from his beautifully angelic face.


It’s not fun. It’s not necessarily embarrassing so much as indescribable to others as to why you haven’t stopped it. The best part….his has now enlisted his youngest sibling (B) to try it on for size. Luckily, B doesn’t like the response he gets and has decided that it’s not worthy of a barrage of utterances any longer.


So what am I doing now? Now, perplexed, I’m taking the opportunity to not only support another, but gain help in this area as well. While supporting Deeds in getting his service dog (you can read about that here, and here) by attending the #forDeeds Twitter Party this Saturday (in 2 days) at 8pm MST, I’ve asked a learned therapist how to take the stupid word out of my son’s daily life.


I can’t wait for my answer!

Now, here’s the part to pay attention to:

To Support Deeds:

  • you can donate here

To Gain Some Help For Yourself / Your Child:

  • leave your question in the comments section at this link on Living With Logan
  • or, send them to @LogansBubbe (Bubbe on Twitter) or to @ihave7monsters … who’s that, oh, that’s Caryn of Living With Logan…the woman working her hardest to help Deeds and his family get his service dog.

  • or heck, you can leave your question right down there in my comments and I’ll be sure it gets to Bubbe

What’s the answer? Why don’t you come attend and find out…and you might even win a giveaway. Giveaway? Yep, it’s a twitter party after all!

What’s your question?
**…and please try not to be offended. This is a ‘bad word’ in our house. A VERY ‘bad word’

(If you’re liking that photo / shirt, that can be purchased here).

By | 2011-02-24T00:48:18+00:00 February 24th, 2011|Categories: Autism / Asperger’s, Burns, Inspiration / Laughter, Relationships, Siblings|Tags: , , , , |4 Comments

About the Author:

Gina St. Aubin

Gina St. Aubin is a former Victim’s Advocate who now advocates for those with intellectual and physical challenges. Her eldest son is diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy, Autism, Sensory Processing Disorder, Electrical Status Epilepticus during Sleep / Landau-Kleffner Syndrome (a rare epileptic disorder causing verbal aphasia) and Developmental Delays. In June, 2012, her son also underwent a successful hemispherectomy. Gina is the editor, author and owner of Special Happens, serves as a member of the Board of Directors for the SPD Foundation, and resides in Colorado where she is a mother of 3, wife, blogger, writer and special needs advocate.


  1. Nicole February 24, 2011 at 1:11 am - Reply

    Whoa, I can SO relate. While I feel sorry that you are going through this, inside I am laughing and feeling better that we are not the only family experiencing this. Although our son’s favorite word is B**ch (and this word is not in our vocabulary), which is then followed by the spit. We have tried so many different strategies, like you: time out, ignoring, soap, praising/rewarding good behavior/words, etc. and nothing has worked. I would love to hear any other suggestions. Our son also has oral sensory issues (likes to suck his thumb, use chewelry, stuffs food) so I thought maybe he liked the way the word felt when he said it and we even tried to *replace* that word with more acceptable ones, but no, he still chooses “the B word”. Sigh.

    • Gina
      Gina February 24, 2011 at 1:27 am - Reply

      Nicole~ Ahhhh. Yes, the replacement. I *totally* forgot about that. We thought he liked the feeling of the word, the emphasis on a certain part of the word. Tried to replace it. But apparently nothing else ‘feels’ as good. 🙁

  2. Louise February 24, 2011 at 9:19 am - Reply

    We have managed to cure quite a few bad habits by making songs about them. Incorporating the word into a made up song or using an existing song (“Something stupid”?). The sillier the better…It makes Charlie and us laugh!

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