They love unconditionally, they encourage, support and guide us through life and are always there to pick us up when we fall, or to wipe away tears when that boy or girl breaks our hearts for the first time. Mothers of children with special needs and all moms are inspirational; they are fighters, they are warriors, and sometimes they have to show just how warrior strong they can be.
It’s not an easy job being a Mother even harder to a special needs child many times you feel left out, you feel like no one truly understands or even cares, you feel isolated especially if you live far from family or if you have family members that do not always understand the situation or circumstances surrounding your own immediate family. Mother’s Day means so much more to me now as an adult, especially since my Mother is getting older.
My Mother sacrificed so much for me for I was born prematurely. I was very ill and required many surgeries for Pierre Robyn Syndrome. What makes my Mother so amazing is that when I was born she was a nurse in her early twenties and living in the Channel Islands. She was engaged to marry a doctor, and they made the decision to adopt me and provide me with everything I needed in order to survive and thrive; and I did. Like many of our children, I was I fighter; I fought to survive. It’s the selfless acts that defines what a mother… someone who puts the needs of others before their own. My parents married 5 days before my first birthday, and kept me a secret from their own families. Imagine the surprise look on my grandparents face when they showed up at the door after their honeymoon with me in tow.
I thank God for my mom. She truly did sacrifice everything in her own life to take care of me. I only wish I had said I love you more, or shown my appreciation for her, instead of giving her battles. (Those are things you truly don’t realize until later in life or until you become a parent yourself.) It’s amazing how smart our mothers become when we in turn become mothers; but as we grow up, we learn to appreciate the people in our life. and the ones that (in all accounts) molded us and helped us to get to where we are today.
There is a poem I have always loved that to me speaks volumes its called “Just Call Her Mommy” – A Newborns Conversation with God. To me it symbolizes just what a special needs child or any child for that matter would say to God before the blessing of their birth. You see the children are our gifts but the mothers are their biggest blessing.
The poem says, in part…
Again the child asked, “And how am I going to be able to understand when people talk to me if I don’t know the language?” God said, “Your angel will tell you the most beautiful and sweet words you will ever hear, and with much patience and care, your angel will teach you how to speak.”
And what am I going to do when I want to talk to you?” God said, “Your angel will place your hands together and will teach you how to pray.” Who will protect me?” God said, “Your angel will defend you even if it means risking its life.” But I will always be sad because I will not see you anymore.” God said, “Your angel will always talk to you about Me and will teach you the way to come back to Me, even though I will always be next to you.”
At that moment there was much peace in Heaven, but voices from Earth could be heard and the child hurriedly asked, “God, if I am to leave now, please tell me my angel’s name.” God said, “You will simply call her, ‘Mommy’.
When you see the Mother of a child with special needs, reach out and be a friend. Offer assistance or be an ear that listens when they’re in need, but most of all, be loving and accepting of both them and their beautiful child. Cherish every minute and appreciate the blessings of your own mother’s and remember the moms who can’t be with us .
Happy Mother’s Day to my Mom and all Mothers, for there is no greater love than that of a mother.
(You can find the full poem here)
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