The Calm in the Storm

Parenting a child with special needs is drama. Constant, never-ending drama. Occasionally, you’ll get what feels like a break. It’s not the calm after the storm. That indicates that the storm has ended. I guess it’s more like being in the eye of a hurricane, when everything is calm and still, but only briefly, before the storm rages all around you again.

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You can look at this lull in the storm two ways. You can be always on guard, waiting for the other shoe to drop, knowing it will, and dreading it. Or you can view it as a brief opportunity to relax and recharge before the storm hits full force again.

When I’m struggling, I tend to go with the first view. It is stressful, and it allows me no chance for respite. When I’m thinking clearly, I opt for the second way. I use the lull to rest and get ready for the next battle. If I can allow myself the chance to rest, I will handle whatever happens next much better.

Special needs parents are often expected to be superhuman, which is impossible, especially when we’re supposed to sustain that status over time. We need to extend grace to ourselves and try to rest and relax whenever we get the chance.

How do you recharge? Reading, watching a movie or TV show, knitting, painting, writing, exercise? Whatever your method of refilling your physical, mental, and emotional reserves, try to fit it in whenever and wherever you can. Our moments of quiet are few and far between. We need to be ready to grab them whenever they present themselves. The eye of the storm passes quickly.

What’s your favorite way to recharge when you can squeeze it into your day?

Jennifer.

 

Jennifer A. Janes
Jennifer Janes lives in Arkansas with her husband, Jeremy, and two daughters. Her younger daughter has special needs, although it took several years before the extent of those needs became evident. Jennifer has moved from denial to thriving in an alphabet soup of diagnoses while managing homeschooling, a home business or two, blogging, therapy sessions, specialist appointments, play dates, and anything else life throws her way. She credits God with giving her the hope and strength to face each day. You can read more on her blog Jennifer A. Janes and can connect with her on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Google Plus, and Instagram.
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2 Responses to The Calm in the Storm

  1. For a quick recharge I watch a movie at night while my children are sleeping. Many nights I go to bed looking at my kitchen sink full of dishes and finally I say “it’s okay they will be there tomorrow” Who knew that this tiny thing of leaving my dirty dishes in the sink another day would allow me a little rest and the relaxation I deserve.

    I am a single mom with two special needs children, 16 y/o son with multiple brain disorders and surgeries and my 9 y/o daughter living with severe autism. I started homeschooling my son 7 years ago and my daughter 4 years ago.

    I call myself the second time around mom. I have a daughter in heaven and two typical adult sons 29 and 26, and my life was a piece of cake back then. This time around God had other plans in store for me. Even though this time around has been mentally excruciating and exhausting I have finally found the purpose of my life. Everyday I learn something new about this life. I have more strength and love I never thought existed in me.

    Thank you for this blog.
    Blessings
    AM

    • You are so right about leaving little things that can wait so you can rest and recharge. Thank you so much for sharing your situation and for how you deal with it. I’m so sorry for the loss of your daughter. You’re an amazing woman. Keep the faith!

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