Dear Meddlesome Stranger who has no clue what it’s like to raise a child with Autism,
Consider reserving judgment if you see me pushing my 8-year-old around a theme park in a stroller. He’s sensitive to heat and his feet get tired. You’re just pissed no one is pushing your lazy ass around. Don’t mumble under your breath or make snide comments when I shove a video game in front of my child’s face just so he will stay calm. You would bitch and complain if I let him scream and jump around, so take your pick. Don’t even think of making a remark when I walk away from my child as he flops around like a fish out of water during a meltdown. Standing there won’t make him stop and I have shit to do. Never, EVER, attempt to intervene if you see my child smacking the crap out of me. He’s either on sensory overload or pissed I didn’t buy him a video game—either way, it’s none of your damn business and I just may set him loose on you if you say something.
I understand there may be moments when you feel the need to make a comment. My advice? Let the moment pass and keep your damn mouth shut. Especially, if you plan on saying any of the following:
“My child will never act like that!” (I assure you, your child will. My kid is autistic, what’s your little brats excuse?)
“That boy just needs a good ass spankin’!” (Perhaps, you just need a good face punchin’?)
“There’s nothing wrong with him, he just wants attention!” (So, stop giving him attention by staring and speaking and move your dumb ass along.)
“Why won’t he stop making noise?!” (Why won’t you stop breathing?)
I trust that you will find this information helpful. Just be thankful you don’t have to deal with these behaviors on a daily basis. However, if you still feel the need to pass judgment, just remember: You’re an idiot and my autistic child is smarter than you could ever dream of being.
Proud Mom of a Beautifully Different Mind