This post is generously submitted for the 2011 All About Autism Series ~ by Tracy C:
Originally, this would have gone in my own blog, but, as a guest blogger for this lady, I think it’s far more appropriate because she is one of the people I am talking about.
Set aside those who rant and rave and focus on those beautiful parents of children with special needs who love their children more fiercely than anyone can ever imagine.
When a person sees a child in a grocery store, lying on the floor, in tears, possibly making remarks as the child’s parent speaks calmly to the child, perhaps even singing to the child. It never occurs to the person that the child may be nonverbal and unable to express that they are tired, etc. Yes, it can be embarrassing, no one wants their child having a fit in public, but with autism, it happens if they are tired or over stimulated. And as parents, we have to stay calm, because if we lose it, they lose it even more!
Most parents keep track of their child’s first haircut, teeth, etc. But for us, it is different. The first time our child willingly gives us a hug, it puts us over the moon. When the say. “I love you.” Without prompting, we feel like we’ve conquered Mount Everest.
When they regress, our hearts break a little. When people make snide comments to or about them, it cuts us deeply because we love our children. It is as if we put our feelings into our children because we give them the best.
We need more than awareness, we need acceptance and understanding. No, I’m not saying our kids should act like little monsters, my son is very well behaved, but it pains us when our children are treated like second class citizens.
We have to face IEPs and then call the school when they aren’t being followed. It’s a constant battle when you have a child with autism because society doesn’t seem ready to accept it.
But we parents, most of us, are a united front. We are sharing our stories, we are helping others cope with their situations. Much of it is online, but I’ve talked with dozens of beautiful people out there who are like me. They love their children, they want what is best, and they are out there trying to help educate others so they can understand.
And we help one another with our own experiences. Not everyone has a local support group, so with our blogs, Facebook, and Twitter we help one another. If I’m able to help someone through my own experiences, I am overjoyed. I have also learned a great deal from many people out there. People who have huge loving hearts, who love their children, not seeing them as flawed, but special. And that’s the way we view one another, we are all heroic. There are times we feel weak and helpless, but we are stronger than the norm because of the obstacles that are put in our way.
There are those who feel cursed.
But there are those of us who feel God picked us to have children with autism because we are special. The parents I talk to, they are so very special, I feel blessed to know them because like the title of this gal’s blog. “Special Happens” and it does.
Tracy is a happily single mother of a beautiful 13 year old son who has the diagnosis of autism, and 2 adopted cats. She loves to write fan fiction, poetry, blog, draw, use the computer, make bracelets, and spend time with her family. You can read more on her blog, Once Upon An Autism, Not Your Regular Fairytale.
Such a compliment, thank you Tracy….I do hope that one day every parent will strive to focus on their children and do whatever it takes to help them achieve their best. What do you think?